Over My Coffee

Chemical Imbalance

2009-11-27T22:44:00.004+05:30

"Is anyone here prepared to say, just what they mean or is it too late?" - Oasis

Loving passionately, being honest, being selfless, being modest, trusting, being closer to your natural self - they call it a chemical imbalance.

"As we lie beneath the stars, we realise how small we are
If they could love like you and me, imagine what the world could be" - Nickelback

They say it's a big bad world. Take over your enemy, before he takes over you. This is how our nature is meant to be. Don't express your feelings, appear stronger than you are, hide your weaknesses, put others down, deceive and lie - is this the right balance?

"If everyone cared and nobody cried, if everyone loved and nobody lied, if everyone shared and swallowed their pride, then we'd see the day when nobody died" - Nickelback

Osho

2009-07-29T21:41:00.001+05:30

"I live spontaneously. I never decide anything beforehand. I keep tomorrow open. I never ask myself why. No why is answerable. I don't live by reason. I simply allow things to happen. This is my basic approach to life."

"The act of being influenced is a kind of mental slavery."

"Belief systems are nothing but a process of conditioning you."

"God is the greatest lie invented by man."

"We, humans have destroyed the harmony of nature."

"If this humanity is not going to change, it is not worth saving."

On India: "India is a dead country. Everything which is born has to die someday. Even civilizations are born and they have to die. But it is very difficult for the people to drop the corpses of the past, their glory, their traditions. They go on carrying the corpses on their shoulders. They are very traditional, very orthodox and completely closed to anything new. They have the idea that their scriptures have all the truth that is possible. Indians are so burdened with traditions, that they cannot see themselves free. People in India are dying of starvation and they still export wheat. The money is needed for nuclear weapons. That is why they continue exporting. 75% of every country's economy is spent on war."

"A loving person has more possibility to grow than someone who is stuck in the head with logic, ideas and philosophies."

"Stability in a relationship is unnatural. The moment love dissappears, say good bye to each other. There is no reason to fight for it."

"Biological attraction fades away sooner or later."

"A man who remains consistent his whole life must be an idiot. A growing person has to contradict himself many times because who knows what tomorrow brings in."

"Nobody is superior or inferior. There is no question of comparison."

"If you have a plan then there is every possibilty of dissappointment."

"All charitable work is a way to wash away one's guilt."

"Expectation is the beginning of frustration. The very seed."

"Every child is born with tremendous love for himself. It is society that destroys that love."

"If you cannot love yourself, you cannot love anybody else."

"Man's greatest need is to feel needed."

On Boredom: "Man is the only animal who feels boredom Boredom simply means that the way you are living is simply wrong. One feels bored because one has been living in dead patterns given by others. If you are doing the thing you are meant to do, you will never be bored. You must be following ideas of others, you must be doing things as they should be done - these are the foundations of boredom."

On Vincent Van Gogh: "Vincent Van Gogh was immensely happy, just painting. Not a single painting was sold, nobody ever appreciated him, he was dying, he was hungry. His brother gave him small amounts of money. Four days in a week he would fast and ate the other three days. He had to fast because he had to save money for his canvas and paints and brushes. But he was immensely happy. He died at 33, he committed suicide. He committed suicide only when he had painted what he wanted to paint. He lived totally."

On society's training: "It is very difficult for an educated man to not be cunning. The whole training is cunning. The training is of logic, not love. It's of doubt, not trust. The training is to be suspicious, not to be trusting. The training is that everybody is trying to decieve you, so be aware. Before anybody else tries to cheat you, cheat them. That is the only way to stay protected. It teaches you that the best way to defend oneself is to be aggressive."

"Man is miserable because he is caught in his own net. Ego is the base of it. As life passes, we go on gathering misery. It is very difficult to realise that 'I am causing my own misery' That is against the ego. So you throw the responsibilty on others. If you're miserable, you think the society is such. You think unless the whole world is changed according to you, you will continue to be miserable."

"Every child is born in a blissful state but almost every man dies in misery."

On Creativity: "A real creative person does not care about becoming famous. When you are creative, desires and ambitions disappear."

"If there is no fear — 'I don't care what happens, whether I live or die, this is what I want to do.' Once a person doesn't care whether he lives or dies, that person has no limitations. He can do whatever he wants."

"The bigger a crowd, the less soul it has."

"We worship those who perplex or defeat our ability to understand them. It's difficult to accept one's ignorance. Hence, it's easier to call him a God or God-incarnate."

On the 'F' Word

George Carlin

2009-07-20T00:48:00.001+05:30

My come back post today is purely dedicated to George Carlin. A legend I discovered a few hours ago.

Listening to such people talk makes me feel better about the world. I love Osho. But now, I love George Carlin more.

The following is the best I've EVER heard regarding the environment. It's even better than 'An Inconvenient Truth'. I would recommend you to watch all possible videos available on Youtube!

A few quotes from the man — "Saving endangered species is one more arrogant attempt by humans to control nature."

"I have as much authority as the pope, I just don't have as many people who believe it."

"I think people should be allowed to do anything they want. We haven't tried that for a while. Maybe this time it will work."

"I was thinking how people seem to read the Bible a whole lot more as they get older, then it dawned on me - they're crramming for their final exam."

My personal favourite — "Atheism is a non-prophet organisation"

"Not only do I not know what's going on, I wouldn't know what to do about it, if I did."

"I love and treasure individuals as I meet them, I loathe and despise the groups they identify with and belong to."

Human Wants

2009-05-08T17:49:00.004+05:30

Quoting Agent Smith from The Matrix, "Every mammal on this planet instinctively develops a natural equilibrium with the surrounding environment but you humans do not. You move to an area and you multiply and multiply until every natural resource is consumed and the only way you can survive is to spread to another area."

I want to run away.
I want to go to the Himalayas
I want to live in the mountains
I want to live in the forest
I want to live by the sea
I want to live by the beach
I want to live on the moon
Everyone wants to go somewhere. Everyone is thinking of running away from their current situation. Everyone does the same things every single day but all day they keep thinking about some other place where they want to be. And they want it badly, but they know they can’t and that frustrates them and creates agony and pain.
Humans!
First they built all these walls around themselves, these concrete buildings, advanced in technology, made customs, created a society, made rituals and traditions, relationships.
Have you ever stopped to think that every single thing in your life that troubles and worries you is man-made?
Such funny things we humans are. First we create all these things and now the very things that we have created are the reason for our misery.
We made the cities and now we want to go back to being close to nature. We pay huge amounts of money for a sea view flat or hotel room, but we’re still not satisfied.
We struggle and work hard to earn money. After we have enough money, we want happiness. The chain of wants never seems to end for humans.
We’re so impatient, restless, dissatisfied, confused, indecisive.
So stupid! First make your life mundane by yourself and then crib about it.
Humans are bad at taking responsibility for their own actions. They like blaming it all on someone else because it’s always so much easier than putting it on yourself.
‘My job sucks. Because my boss is bad.’
‘My relationship sucks because my partner doesn’t understand me.’
‘My life sucks because the people around don’t understand me, because this is not where I want to be.’
So decide where you want to be!
Take the step. Don’t keep blaming people and situations.
If you don’t like where you are, change. And if you want to think about what will happen if you change and how you can’t change because there are so many limitations, then shut up and stay there and don’t complain.
If you want something badly, it’s on you to go and get it. By going on thinking about why you can’t do it, just shows you don’t want it bad enough and you’re just convincing your mind that it’s not you it’s the situation. There! Getting rid of responsibility.
And if you really can’t go ahead and do it, accept it. Don’t complain. Try to get your way around things and adjust with the situation and be happy with what you have. If things aren’t working out however hard you try, then probably they are meant to be that way.
There is always a choice. Either this or that. If you are going to just sit and ponder the pros and cons of each choice but eventually don’t come to a decision. You’re just simply wasting your time and energy. Just don’t blame life for the decision YOU make!
And also have the courage to accept the consequences of the steps you take, whether good or bad.

The quote is so apt. Every mammal, every part of nature knows how to create a balance. But only humans don't. They will exhaust one thing and when they find nothing more they can get from it, they move to something else.
Living example for it, humans are slowly exhausting all the energy and resources of the earth and now trying to discover life on the Moon and Mars, maybe we will end up creating our own planet one day, and still won't be content!

Following Dreams

2009-05-05T22:31:00.000+05:30

Quoting Vidya's comment from my previous entry, "We all want to do certain things, achieve certain dreams, but we always avoid them, forget them, or simply push them to the back of our head. Though, we never regret not doing them, till death. You ask why? Well, maybe, because we're too worried about the consequences. I agree 'It's not life until you live it the way you really want to'. What if doing that costs way too much, changes other things of your life that you want to keep intact, or jostles some relationships that you care too much about to lose? But in death, we have nothing to lose and everything to gain. And there are no consequences.Maybe that's why we become honest to ourselves then..."

We never live for what we really want to do, for what we really want to feel. We don't live to make our dreams come true but rather live a life according to set rules, according to how we are 'suppossed' to be, what we are 'expected' to do. Or maybe even worse, trying to get better than someone else.

Why not ask yourselves, "Do I really love what I'm doing?"
Are you doing it because you really like to or want to do it. Or is it because you 'have to' or because you don't have another option?
Are you on your way to fulfilling your life dream (and I don't mean career/materialistic things, it could be anything at all) or are you just running to achieve something you want to take away from someone else, or to prove yourself?

In the daily grind of life, we forget what our real wants, feelings and dreams are. We push them aside. Either because we find them too unreal or impossible to achieve or because we are afraid of the consequences.

We humans are funny beings. Why are we always trying to control everything? If something is not in our control, we are afraid of it. In my previous entry it was death. In this entry, it is the consequences of following your dream.
If you're adamant on making your dreams come true, why worry about the consequences?
Why do we measure everything in our life on the basis of losses and gains?
How can following your dream ever cost anything? Doing and achieving what you really want can never be a loss!

Humans are also to clingy. Always want to be in the known and afraid of the unknown. We don't want to follow our dream or take a risk because we don't know what lies ahead. So we make ourselves comfortable in what's already there, in the known.
Why do you want to keep anything intact in your life? You are not truly living if your life is intact.
Life is a flowing river not a stagnant lake.

The most important thing I have learnt in my life till now is, Relationships are never lost. It's the people that leave but the bond always remains.

We become truly honest when death is near because that is when we finally shed our egos, prejudices, fears, insecurities. We are finally caught off gaurd by 'life' and we realise there's no more we can run.

Last Moments

2009-04-21T08:47:00.004+05:30

Quoting Stu's confession in Phonebooth, "I have never done anything for anybody who couldn't do something for me... I lie in person and on the phone. I lie to my friends... I am just a part of a big cycle of lies... I think I need these clothes and this watch. My 2000 dollar watch is a fake and so am I. I've neglected the things I should have valued most. I valued this shit... I work so hard on this image, on Stu Shepherd, the asshole who refers to himself in the third person that I only proved I should be alone. I have just been dressing up as something I'm not for so long, I'm so afraid no one will like what's underneath. But here I am, just flesh and blood and weakness..."

Death is one thing we are all afraid of.
What is it about death, that scares us so much? Is it the revelation that our life is going to come to an end? Or is it because it's the one thing man doesn't have control over?

If we are so afraid of death, it must mean that we really value life.
But that doesn't seem to be the case with most people.
Most people don't value their life. And no one values the life of another.

Why is it that we should always understand the value and importance of things in our life when they're being taken away from us?
Why is it, that only in our last moments we are truly honest, weak and vulnerable?
Where does our ego go then? Do we finally shed it and surrender to life? Why don't we fight anymore? Is it because we have finally given up...

All your life you lived pretending to be fearless and brave. Too proud to be sensitive, to express your natural emotions. You lived a life feeding your ego. Playing mind games, not saying that simple Sorry or Thank You and always considering yourself above the rest.
All along you have lived a dishonest life. From small meaningless lies, to big lies. Bribes. Getting your way.
You hurt your loved ones. Take them for granted. Fight over meaningless things rather than spending the precious time valuing and respecting eachother. You don't express your true feelings to them. Why do we realise how much we really love a person when they're gone?
You are always discontent and always wanting for more. Never satisfied. Always running behind materialistic things, not realising the real pleasures are in the simple things of life.
You live a fake life. So that people can like you, so that you fit in. Afraid of being rejected. You live a life that appeals to those around you. You have become so fake, that you don't know yourself anymore. You live your life for others. Not for yourself.
People are like pawns for you. Taking over each one, getting them to look upto you, because that feeds your petty and fragile ego.

Forget good deeds and bad deeds. That's just another formula for our greedy and selfish personality.
Forget conscience too. That is made by society - it's norms, morals and ethics.

Your Conscious. What about that? That deep feeling within you that you've always pushed - so much that it has disappeared now. That feeling that doesn't let you enjoy the delight of a peaceful sleep at night. That feeling that doesn't let you look yourself in the eye.

What about that?

What goes on in a person's mind in his last moments?

Quoting Tyler Durden from Fight Club, "If you died right now, how would you feel about your life?"
Will you accept that you're going to die. And this is it. Your life is going to end.
OR
Will you cry because your life is about to end and you yet have a million things to do and a million people to call so that you can tell them how much you really love and value them, to acknowledge them, apologize for all the things you couldn't do for them or for how you made them feel?

Is it always going to take a near one's death, a bomb blast or being held at gun point to realise how valuable our life really is?
When are we going to start living it in its truest sense and drop all the pretense and fake happiness?
Wake up. Do the things you truly enjoy. Don't hurt people. Don't value your phone more than the person you're with or the moment you're in. Get rid of your ego. It's okay to be the first one to apologize and make things right. Don't say nasty things. Don't use people. Don't play with someone's emotions. Tell the people who matter how much you love them every time you really feel it. Thank them for their presence. Don't put it off for later, you won't have enough time.

At the end of it all, we're just flesh, blood and weakness...

'I rather die a happy, content and honest life at 30 rather than live a discontented, guilty and unhappy life till 80.'

The Coffee Recipe

2009-03-26T23:16:00.003+05:30

Quoting The Prime Minister (Hugh Grant) from Love Actually, "General opinions say that we live in a world of hatred and greed, but I don't see that. It seems to me that love is everywhere. Often, it's not particularly dignified or newsworthy, but it's always there - fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, husbands and wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, old friends. When the planes hit the Twin Towers, as far as I know, none of the phone calls from the people on board were messages of hate or revenge - they were all messages of love. If you look for it, I've got a sneaking suspicion... love actually is all around."

But as Jigsaw puts it in Saw 3, "Why is it that we're only willing to do that, when a life is at stake?"

I find it very funny how people always like to get away by saying, "I'm only human and humans are bound to make mistakes."

I truly believe that there is a great amount of love and affection buried deep inside each one of us.
But why is it deep down there? Why isn't it expressed every single day?
Why do we save it up for the last few moments of our lives...